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Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Jamsters Final Wishes

http://www.photoshow.com/watch/vs3KN9Be  Jamster's photo shows for Memorial Service



It's 9 am. and Marlon has driven me to the nursing home to meet Hospice nurse Jen and Social worker.  Jammie meets us and we walk in together.  When we get in the  room I noticed she has some beautiful flowers.  Jamster told me the flowers are from her Grandma Grooms and she also got Jamster a giant Snicker bar.
There were 2 angels sitting on top of a light that make them illuminate.  So pretty she told me these were from her Aunt Maggie.


We have decided that we will have Plain City Ohio funeral home come and get Jammie when she passes.  We will find out all the pricing before we all decide any further arrangements.

 Completed the Make a Wish application and sent it to Sarah who will give to Hospice nurse Jen to finish filling out her part and turning in.  I signed to be Jammie's Power of Attorney and I will be the only one able to make any decisions regarding her health.  She did not want to name another person.  Jammie signed her Living Will.  Jen explained that what Jamster has there is no known cure nor do they really even know what causes it.  Jamster's lungs will slowly harden making it more and more difficult to breath.  They explained to Jamster and me that they will not call the hospital when things get worse but not worry she will not suffer nor be in pain.  Currently, they are giving her morphine to keep her comfortable.  As it gets harder for her to breath her brain will be deprived of oxygen and she will not be able to comprehend anything going on around her and she will talk off the wall.  To sit and listen to all this is so difficult.  Thank Goodness Marlon is taking good notes.....from this meeting.  I recorded it but who knows if it even taped?

Next stop will be a funeral home in Plain City. 


 Marlon called and we have an appointment today at 4:15.   When we pulled into the parking lot my heart sank.  I'm really dreading going into this place, but it has to be done.  We were greeted by a nice lady and given cups of coffee. 

She directed us to the room labeled Arrangements......

 We all sat down and she started going over all the different plans to choose from.  After much review the bottom line, it will cost a minimum of $12,000 for a full funeral with burial.  The price of cremation, picking up Jamster from the nursing home, a box to transport her in and take to the crematory, information sent to the newspaper, and 2 death certificates is $2,200.  We took the paperwork and need to get it completed for the newspaper and decide on any special thing we want to do with the ashes.

I called Jamster and told her the prices and she told me well Mom looks like you know what you have to do.  It cost to much so I will be cremated and you will set up something nice for me right?  Well, of course, I'm going to do that for her.  I told her what the plans might be, but nothing is for sure yet.  Maybe Memorial at Mechanicsburg Park and rent the park building there.  I will have someone that her Aunt Maggie wants to sing a song.  I have a slide show to play for everyone, we will let some people get up and say nice things about Jamster's life.  I think she is ok with these arrangements.   I was so glad when we were completed with talking about this.  I have spent my entire day finding out information so we don't have to do this later.  

Mason her youngest son has not been adopted so the funeral home said he will be entitled to Social Security and we needed to order one death certificate for him so he can collect a monthly check.  

After so much thought about everyone's wants and needs,  we have decided to have a viewing, and directly after viewing a memorial service. No thing graveside as she will be cremated and we will scatter her ashes over the ocean, where she will be free to fly.

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